when people are together for ages, get married and then split. -Jan It's absolutely not uncommon at all: longtime partners who are together for years decide to get married, and then almost immediately decide to get divorced. For some people, that expectation might be, "Absolutely nothing will change, other than that we'll be wearing rings and will have had a big party." For other people, the expectation might be, "will change. Obviously, there's no way for us to ever know exactly what makes individual couples split up.
Everyone talks about how you should cherish the newlywed stage of your marriage because once life goes on things get harder. We have seen the trope on many sitcoms where the wife just wants to be left alone, the husband is sex-starved, and they are usually bickering.
One thing that is freaking me out at the moment is when I hear of friend and friends of friends, who marry after being together for 7-8 years, but end up divorced after the first year or so. But when it comes to this trend, I've got a theory…
This terrifies me, as I really want to get/stay happily married, but I wonder why this happens … For better or for worse, each of us has expectations about what being married will mean to the relationship.
Andreas and I were together for over six years before we got married, and living together for five of those.
We'd already survived several rounds of unemployment, interstate moves, college graduations, and holidays spent with each other's families. ), the questions from friends and family shifted from, "So, are you two getting married? If it ain't broke, don't fix it." That was the point at which I realized maybe we'd waited a little It may indeed be possible.